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The Lesson Found at Ms. Judy’s Mailbox — 54 Comments

    • Thank you, Andrew – God doesn’t waste anything. He manages to redeem the hard and hurting places in ways we cannot imagine or fathom. One of my favorite quotes is from the Alvin C York movie, “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” Wishing at times that so many didn’t require so much mystery – but then maybe we wouldn’t discover God’s deep and abiding love if we didn’t.

  1. So beautifully expressed … touched so deep from the littles to the beautiful young men. Praying for my beautiful boy / man to find his way back to the plans, purposes and the arms of our Heavenly Father
    Thank you

    • God doesn’t waste anything. He manages to redeem the hard and hurting places in ways we cannot imagine or fathom. One of my favorite quotes is from the Alvin C York movie, “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” Wishing at times that so many didn’t require so much mystery – but then maybe we wouldn’t discover God’s deep and abiding love if we didn’t.

  2. What a beautiful story. It read like a fairy tale. Best thing I’ve read in a long time. Thanks for sharing this wonderful heartfelt story.

    • Fairy tales have the hard parts, don’t they – and then the knight in shining armor saves and redeems. I’ve always felt fairy tales were really examples of God stories. Thank you for stopping by and leaving such kind words!

  3. So lovely. I’ve got some who are getting ready to launch and it’s a scary thing for a mother’s heart. Praying that I do well at “letting go and letting God.” 🙂 Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Each of us were designed for those launching moments. I’m comforted now that I understand God isn’t surprised by any of the challenges – He knew before we did – and He has the plan activated to save. I’ve learned to invite him to stand with me. He stands close when I do that!

    • God doesn’t waste anything. He manages to redeem the hard and hurting places in ways we cannot imagine or fathom. One of my favorite quotes is from the Alvin C York movie, “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” Wishing at times that so many or so much didn’t require so much mystery – but then maybe we wouldn’t discover God’s deep and abiding love if we didn’t. He’s got this, Debbie – He’s got the plan going. He’s not surprised. He’s working right now to overcome the challenges!

  4. Oh how you must understand the heart ache of a mother whose children have “gone past the mailbox” before they should have. I have 3 that have done just that and your words were a cool drink for my soul today. I have given and taken back and given again to the only One that can heal all involved. Thank you so much for sharing and lifting my head once again.
    Maggie

    • God doesn’t waste anything. He manages to redeem the hard and hurting places in ways we cannot imagine or fathom. One of my favorite quotes is from the Alvin C York movie, “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” Wishing at times that so many or so much didn’t require so much mystery – but then maybe we wouldn’t discover God’s deep and abiding love if we didn’t. I ’m comforted now that I understand God isn’t surprised by any of the challenges – He knew before we did – and He has the plan activated to save. Praying that we both invite him to stand with us during the hard. He stands close when we do that!

  5. Maryleigh,

    So beautiful in its tender trust and love for God and her prodigals…I really wish we could sit and talk…I appreciate you sharing your wisdom….hard won wisdom…love and hugs to you 🙂

  6. You and I have this matter in common, Maryleigh, moms of all sons. Thankfully two of my boys have stayed close to home in a spiritual sense. But one is sort of a meanderer now. He’s my baby and though he lives at home, working full-time this semester and doing school online, I think I need to take your advice to heart. I’ve “babied” him too much and he’s had a hard time finding his place in the adult world in a way. Though he is working and doing “adult things,” he tends to remain immature in his faith–if he has a faith at all. Sure, he goes to church. He even plays in the band. But he hasn’t made his faith his own just yet and I believe that’s because I’ve made too many decisions for him. I need to trust that my prayers simmered over the stirring pot are enough. God is more than enough to keep this boy–“man”–on the straight and narrow. Thanks for your insight, my friend!

    • Each of y boys has matured at different times and different ways – and their challenges have come at different times. It’s hard to let go – and let them fall, but even babies learning to walk do – I think there’s a lesson in that. If babies can fall and get back up – maybe that’s God’s fore-knowledge of what’s coming. I think we’re both simmering prayers and stirring the pot now – when I’m in the kitchen, stirring (which the boys at home demand I do – LOL) – I’ll pray for you and your son – because when two are in agreement – things happen!

  7. Oh, my word! I have loved many of your posts, but, by far, this is my favorite…ever. I have sat here and cried as I read it. SO very touching…and so well-written….and SO moving to a loving Mama’s heart. Thank you for this, sweet friend. God bless you for being obedient to write and share what He has taught you and laid upon your heart. You are a blessing!

    • It was one of those posts where God said, “Now – do it now” – and my heart was so grieving for people I love – who love their kids just like I do – who have been vigilant and faithful. I also remembered those who prayed and still pray for me in the hard places. It’s special to me, too – God gave it to me – in the daily walk and then one night last week – put it all together for me so I could give it away. When I walked through it, I know I cried and cried – and God collected every tear drop:) Thank you for understanding!

  8. Like Cheryl I have been sitting here crying. I just discovered you today and I don’t think it was by accident. I have one son who has chosen the wrong road many times. Over the years I have learned to keep quite and pray, but this time as I see him once again choosing the road I think is wrong I am coming undone. I have practically thrown myself down on the road to stop him, but as you said that is not helpful. My sons name is Samuel, I joke my mistake was not taking him to the temple and leaving him when he was a toddler.
    Thank you for the beautiful prayer I feel it is just for me. God is good.

    • Adrian, I’ve taken my time replying to the comments because I wanted to make sure, even more than usual, that I honored the mother’s hearts struggling – because I know how deep and raw the hurt is. I’ve seen dear, loving, God-daughters hurting, too – in similar battles. I want to assure you that God isn’t surprised. God’s got this – he knew what these struggles would be even before our children first walked – and He’s got the plan. There’s a phrase that’s stuck with me the last week that I heard somewhere – that somewhere along the way their life becomes their story and they’ve got to live their story. We just become stock characters who encourage a long the way. I’m trying to adjust to that – to let them take the pen for their story. It’s hard – letting the pen go! Praying, Adrian, that God’s peace come over you in this challenge, in this releasing of the pen. Praying you invite God to just stand with you – and be comforted!

  9. This is a beautiful story all by itself, but the truth behind it — a mum who prays and a heavenly Father who sustains and corrects — these are priceless. Glad to have found your words today.

  10. This is a powerful story, and I love the wisdom and truth in it. I will remember this and tuck it away. I’ve needed these words before, and I might need them again. Thank you for your encouragement to trust God in these kinds of hard situations.

  11. Beautiful story, well told. I love how you connected it to biblical mothers. First time I realized that Rebekah finally set go.

    • Jacob’s story has been dear to my heart – Rebekah told him to go. She might have encouraged the circumstances because she wanted him close – but in the end, she let go – and let God. Thank you for taking the time to come by! Wishing you blessing and grace in your week!

    • God doesn’t waste anything. He manages to redeem the hard and hurting places in ways we cannot imagine or fathom. One of my favorite quotes is from the Alvin C York movie, “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” Wishing at times that so many and so much didn’t require so much mystery – but then maybe we wouldn’t discover God’s deep and abiding love if we didn’t. God isn’t surprised – God knew this before it even happened. He was prepared. I see some in the family who became angry at them for the hurt and the wrong – but God doesn’t want that. He wants even the sheep who stay close to the shepherd to hope, believe, try to see them as he does – and forgive. Because at some point, they will need that support in order to forgive themselves.

  12. WOW! This is powerful, beautiful, and so real, so touching. I am a childless woman yet pray for “our” children often. This brings my heart even closer to God to pray for the children of this world. So thankful I came by from Sandra’s for I have been blessed.

  13. What a lovely post to start my day. You have a fabulous gentle compelling way to entice readers to keep reading. My true faith didn’t happen until I reached 50. For that reason my children don’t really know Jesus. But I have two little grandchildren who do. God will work in His way to reach the rest of them. They all walk in truth, in love and in peace so deep down Jesus is inside them. They just haven’t acknowledged it yet.
    I can’t wait to see some haiku examples. I haven’t taught it since teaching in the public system – grade 4-5.
    Blessings,
    Janis

  14. This is beautiful. I’ve launched two of mine so far, and the road has been nothing but glorious. I pray the same for my other two children.

  15. Hi Maryleigh! Oh man, raising kids is so hard. Thank you for showing all of us that there is no ‘perfect launch’ and sometimes those kids leave when they’re not ready. And love lets them go, waiting for God to fill them with wisdom.

    It reminds me a lot of the Prodigal Son. No, we haven’t failed, but it can feel like that. Prayer changes things, right in the middle of stirring pots…
    Blessings,
    Ceil

  16. This is such hard stuff, Maryleigh. Not just for the child, but for us mamas too who have to watch it happening and feel so helpless. But yes, you’re right that we can always pray and turn to the Father to do the heavy lifting for us when we are powerless to do it.

    • Helpless is an apt word for how it feels – powerless, too. I love how you talk about the father doing the heavy lifting – that visual is so liberating! Thanks for coming by and extending the conversation and encouragement!

  17. My gosh, how eloquent, what a wise and wonderful story of letting go of our children. This comes when my son who will be 18, has moved away from God, other things too important, so your words clarify what my heart knows. Keep praying, trusting God holds him, and he will return. I know when he says our ‘goodnight mom, God bless’, that God is within his heart. Truly a stunning post!!
    Visiting from nextdoor at #RaRaLink Up!

  18. Your wisdom spills over, and clearly, you have hit tender spots in such a way that we are compelled to seek the face of the Father – if we have children old enough to leave the house or not – to pray these prayers of protection and wisdom and the letting go. So grateful to know you and to read your words.

  19. Maryleigh, your open, honest, transparent writing drew me to your side, standing there in your kitchen at the stovetop…seeing through your eyes, praying for my children and grandchildren…When I am praying, I picture Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, in the green pasture of the 23rd Psalm. As I pray, I take whatever concern I have, or the person for whom I am interceding by the hand. I walk out to the meadow, the green pasture, and I place my concern, or the hand of the person for whom I am interceding, in Jesus’ hand…knowing that He is sovereign, He loves me, and He loves the person for whom I am interceding more than I do. He has a plan, a hope, and a future for each of us…and I walk away, thanking God for how He is working in my life and in the lives of those for whom I am interceding. I experience a feeling of peace…as Catherine Marshall prayed, “Lord, I trust You…You know what You’re doing…I relinquish my will to Yours.” Many blessings to you!

  20. Thank you so much for sharing this! It has encouraged my heart so much!

    A dear Pastor taught me to let go when my son was in a rebellious stage at the age of 19 and still living at home. He told me that I had raised him for 18 years and now I needed to trust God and let Him go. In the letting go, my son started to establish his own boundaries and became obedient once again even though he was 19.

    That same son is now married and I’ve had to let go in an even harder situation, in that he is an alcoholic, something that became apparent in the last year. I spoke to him once about it and we had a good conversation, but I promised him and myself that I wouldn’t bring it up anymore.

    But your statement, “I pray that when you wrestle with trusting God that His determination to save your child is greater than the devil’s determination to destroy your child.” gave me such incredible encouragement to keep believing that God can break the chains of addiction.

    You have blessed me so much with this post. Thank you.

  21. At once heartbreaking and encouraging — knowing we can trust God with our children, even in soul crushing situations. Reminds me of the lyrics, “I have returned to the God of my childhood…”

  22. Beautifully written and a powerful message to share! I did not hear it the first time so it was a great thing to have you share it again. I think we sometimes do well to reblog something we have written when many who read us now did not know us when we first posted it.

  23. Loved these words today, MaryLeigh! Our three daughters are all launched now; yet there is still so much to pray and ponder over. I loved this statment: “I pray that when you wrestle with trusting God that His determination to save your child is greater than the devil’s determination to destroy your child.” I have hope; because I know God’s determination is always greatr.

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