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Powder Puff Ministry — 29 Comments

    • so true – learning to interpret what is that “more that’s going on than I realize” – what is my response really referring to? And then being courageous enough to face it!

    • If God did things in an “expected” way in my life – that would be unexpected! He keeps me on my toes with His out-of-the-box ways!

  1. Maryleigh, this was so good and I needed to read this. I loved the story as it is such a good reminder. I often go and go and stuff my feelings down until there is no room left. How precious of the Lord to provide a gracious and caring woman who knew just the powder puff treatment you needed!

    • God always ministers to us in unexpected ways with unexpected people! I am learning to throw my expectations to the wind – and just expect Him!

  2. Maryleigh, thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving your comment. It led me back to you and your blog, which I find inspiring. Talk about finding a lead in an unexpected way! Your post is very inspiring, and I love finding blogs like this!

    • I so enjoyed your tablescapes. As an All-Boy Mom – the table has been the place I claim for the girl inside – so balm to my heart! Thanks for coming by. Glad you enjoyed your time here!

  3. You were my gift from the Lord that day. You are forever God’s love for eternity, through your heart God reached my heart and I am forever grateful. God, I love you and ask you to keep me at your service forever and ever. In Jesus name Amen 🙏

  4. Maryleigh, this is beautiful on multiple levels! First, I’m crying over the store clerk’s kindness to you. Her sensitivity to be a vessel of God’s love in ‘that’ moment. It’s beautiful! Second, your call for us to look beyond the meltdown and to see beyond what we know is heard and turned into a prayer for sensitivity to His Holy Spirit and to others. Third, referred response isn’t a term, I’m familiar with, but a concept I knew. Thanks for sharing and helping us to grow in our ability to walk with others in a life-giving way.

    • Lisa, I don’t know if there is an “official” term “referred response” – it’s one I “coined” because it was the best way to describe it. If there is referred pain, surely there is referred response! I’m guilty of judging a response in the check out aisle, at a ball park, or where ever a breakdown happens that turns the normal into the uncomfortable. I’m called to give grace, not judgement – when we step away from judgement, our hearts make more room for compassion, grace and love! I’m so glad this post hit a place in you – it’s one that’s been on my heart for a few years and I so wanted the reader to feel what I felt that day!

  5. I can so relate to your story. Especially when I was the busy mom of teens and trying to work and keep a ministry going. You’ve explained why something insignificant can be that straw.

    • Debbie – and we blame the straw, not understanding there is a much weightier issue creating our response problem!

  6. ‘Referred Response’

    Fascinating and oh so true. When I really fly off the handle it usually has nothing to do with the ’cause.’ It’s always something else, an emotion stirred … hurt or frustration or fear or being disrespected.

    Narrowing it down and figuring it out, helps, doesn’t it. There’s healing that needs to take place.

    • I don’t know if there is an “official” term “referred response” – it’s one I “coined” because it was the best way to describe it. If there is referred pain, surely there is referred response! I’m guilty of judging a response in the check out aisle, at a ball park, or where ever a breakdown happens that turns the normal into the uncomfortable. I’m called to give grace, not judgement – when we step away from judgement, our hearts make more room for compassion, grace and love! Understand helps my response to my own challenges – and my response to other’s behavior!

  7. so often it’s a little thing that brings out all the stresses that I’ve been stuffing down. But I don’t always recognize my underlying problem. This is something really important to learn. Great post, and great reminder that God does know what we need.

    • Hi Paula, I don’t know if there is an “official” term “referred response” – it’s one I “coined” because it was the best way to describe it. If there is referred pain, surely there is referred response! I’m guilty of judging a response in the check out aisle, at a ball park, or where ever a breakdown happens that turns the normal into the uncomfortable. I’m called to give grace, not judgement – when we step away from judgement, our hearts make more room for compassion, grace and love!

  8. I appreciate you sharing this story of one of your moments. We ALL can relate because we all have had those. 🙂 Maybe it’s not a powder puff, but it’s something as seemingly insignificant that sets us off. I had a moment like that last week. About halfway through a tirade with a loved one, I caught myself and backed up. It was an awkward moment for everybody. But it would have been even more awkward if the Spirit hadn’t stirred in my spirit to turn around because I was not behaving becomingly. 😉

    • I like your word choice “not behaving becomingly.” I’m learning to recognize those spirit promptings. It is challenging, but it encourages me to extend grace to those experiencing the same moments!

  9. My thoughts were pinging all over the place as I read this. The first thought I had was that it drives me crazy when I express a feeling, and someone tells me what I should be feeling, instead. I’ve had this happen in expressing sorrow over one person’s death, and someone has said: but what about these people (unrelated to the situation I was grieving)? As if every death doesn’t warrant sorrow. The second thought I had was that, when trauma is involved, a person can be triggered because of something that happened decades ago. There are times I look at my recent life (as you did, here) and still have NO IDEA why I am experiencing such big feelings. And I’ll be honest: there are times I don’t/can’t figure it out. I really appreciate this post. It’s so often not about what it’s “about.” I’m so sorry for all your challenges but thankful you don’t waste them. I love you!

    • I love you back, Brandee! Maybe when we are experiencing such big feelings, it’s also God prompting us to slow down and move differently, like changing lanes. I think one of the reasons I found my way to that moment was because I made room in my schedule – slowed down for 3o minutes – and, yes, went out of my way. I might have been driving my car to that store – but God was shepherding/driving me to go – and I took that time and changed my schedule. He never moves us wrong! Love you back, my friend! We need to meet for lunch soon!

  10. Awww, Maryleigh, you have no idea how this post spoke to me, brought tears, actually. I feel like I’m in a season where a simple powder puff could send me over the edge. Thanks for the truths you shared here. Here’s to taking a deep breath, getting away (at least kind of) to a quiet place and spending time with Jesus.

    • I was teary writing this, remembering. I still don’t think I’ve plumbed the depth of that season and its soul effects – but I am so grateful that God recognized my need when I didn’t. Praying you soak in the exact soul care refreshing God knows you need, Jeanne! ~ Maryleigh

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